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Her Thoughts
XOXO, random ramblings and letters to the reader.
Exposed to the Same Sun
Inasmuch as we are all different, it is common for people to expect the same results from different people simply based on the fact that their situations are seemingly the same. Ironically, so many have been disappointed because their results differed.
Dear Intuition, I Believe You
For the longest time I believed the best decisions in life were based on experience, facts, reasoning and sound advice…everything but you.
Compromise Isn't Always the Answer
Sometimes it’s difficult to understand compromise, and how it can derail you from your goals. Boundaries are constantly being shifted every now and then to temporarily suit whoever deems it necessary. We are generally easily swayed to the extent that it is difficult to stand for what we believe in without giving in to some form of pressure. We claim we all have our standards bu
To a Sister Struggling With Identity...
I know you struggle with your identity. You are trying to know and understand yourself. To strip out the layers which have protected you over the years. For how can you know yourself if you have not stared at your emotional nakedness or your mental vulnerability?
TWSC Discussion: Male vs. Female Bosses
I came across some statistics on male and female bosses that I thought were interesting, to say the least... A 2013 Gallup Poll asked Americans, "If you were taking a new job and had your choice of a boss, would you prefer to work for a man or a woman?"
TWSC Discussion: Women and Suicide
This week, two high-profile people reportedly committed suicide – American fashion designer Kate Spade, and American celebrity chef, author, and television personality Anthony Bourdain. It’s sad to imagine what these two individuals – and countless others around the world – must have gone through in the weeks and days leading up to their untimely deaths.
Wisdom From the "Inexperienced" Might Just be the Advice You Need
Sometimes I wonder about the old adage, “there is wisdom in grey hair.” It seems the implication is that sound advice only comes from the elderly, and the young should wait until they are “of age” to be considered wise. Some then choose to live their lives guided by the mantra, “experience is the best teacher” to the extent that the only advice that matters to them is the one c
My Moment of Shame, and My Commitment to My Fellow Women
The other day, I was having lunch with some of my friends when a shabbily dressed woman passed by. The woman, who appeared to have been in her twenties, had a baby on her back and a sack on her head. One of the girls I was with made a crude joke about the woman’s dressing, and we all laughed. I didn’t think much of the incident, only to be reminded of it when I read an article
Rigid, They Say? I Disagree
People say there is a thin line between being principled and being rigid. The line is so fine that the two are often carelessly equated. I am constantly reminded of this when I see women being judged harshly for their decisions and for standing up for what they believe. Imagine a life where one spends their whole life explaining being true to themself? There was a time I actual
To a Sister Finding it Hard to Forgive...
“…forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us…” “To err is human, but to forgive is divine.” Dear Sis, I know it’s hard to forgive. I know it’s even harder to forget. It’s easier to hold on to grudges. It’s easier to stand in self-righteousness and count all the wrongs done unto us. But is that what you want for your life? …Those things they said about you were m
Dear Spectator...
I have discovered that the common feuds that exist between a spectator and a player have lived on for as long as I can remember, and solving them won’t be easy without cooperation from the parties involved. In all genuineness, both perspectives are valid and based on where each one stands. But I guess what matters at the end of the day is how each view can be useful and for wha
Dear Seeker...
You feel down today because only 60 people liked your post. You were hoping for at least 100. You check your feed every few minutes, wondering when the masses are going to swoop in and marvel at the selfie you just posted. Then you look to see which “friends” are online and wonder why they haven’t liked your picture yet. You take that personally.